How to deal with hurt feelings over controversial threads?

[aafanatic]

"Whaaa"
About four times a year a controversial thread breaks out in the forum that I think of as home. Someone asserts an inflammatory point that they themselves are probably conflicted on, and it polarizes into a long winded debate/argument that has been gone over many times before. It becomes a penny fight where in each man insists upon throwing in their 2 cents. It usually lasts a week of eager hot penny throwing, and then it just dies out until next time. In the past I have been hurt reading remarks from people that I felt friendly towards, but now I just stay out of it. I still find myself not wanting to participate as I usually would as a form of punishment. (Silent scorn) I realized that I am probably not alone in this and thought if I shared my disappointment that it might help others.
If, on the other hand, you have a very thick skin and think that the rest of us should just grow up, perhaps this is not the thread for you. Most of us already have that voice internally and I would rather not hear it from a stranger.
"I would rather be happy and healthy than right and alone." Dr. A. E. Newman.

[Turnaround]

People are quicker to say nasty things when they don't have to face you... ever.

I'd be more worried about the guy waving a neon orange flag in front of me, yelling at me that I couldn't park my car in a spot, than most of the heated comments that come up on the internet.

[TK-421]

[Drop of a Hat]

These threads are tough. Im a guy who says it like it is. Some don't like that. I mean hell, i said i didn't want to send packages outside of conus and somehow i ended up being called a "racist". Im sure that would have hurt some feelings had it been a more sensitive person.
Some people don't seem to think. They just mindlessly type out mumbo jumbo. And it leaves some hurt and some just scratching their heads wondering what the hell just happened.

Its best just to take a breath and relax. Because it'll never end. There will always be people like that. Especially on such a diverse platform like WUS.

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[OrangeSport]

If you think a thread is likely to upset you it's probably best not to participate, so I guess you're doing the best thing.

I doubt anyone feels the silent scorn though.

Try to chill. It's just a forum, and just like in the real world some people are nice, some aren't and some forget that the written word can seem harsher than a spoken word.

Nothing on here is worth worrying about.

[ljb187]

"Whaaa"
About four times a year a controversial thread breaks out in the forum that I think of as home. Someone asserts an inflammatory point that they themselves are probably conflicted on, and it polarizes into a long winded debate/argument that has been gone over many times before. It becomes a penny fight where in each man insists upon throwing in their 2 cents. It usually lasts a week of eager hot penny throwing, and then it just dies out until next time. In the past I have been hurt reading remarks from people that I felt friendly towards, but now I just stay out of it. I still find myself not wanting to participate as I usually would as a form of punishment. (Silent scorn) I realized that I am probably not alone in this and thought if I shared my disappointment that it might help others.
If, on the other hand, you have a very thick skin and think that the rest of us should just grow up, perhaps this is not the thread for you. Most of us already have that voice internally and I would rather not hear it from a stranger.
"I would rather be happy and healthy than right and alone." Dr. A. E. Newman.

I'm mostly fine with all comments because in some way it helps to evaluate just what it is I'm doing. Sometimes I'm in the wrong or misguided and it's good to hear that from time to time - however that message gets delivered. On the other hand, sometimes I'm right and...what’s the word…guided(?)...so it's nice to know me and my thoughts can stand up to scrutiny - ill considered or otherwise. In fact, it's the coarser statements give me a chance to grow a little if I'm able to deal with them constructively. Finally I get a perverse pleasure in hearing the sort of unvarnished opinions that only annonimity can provide.

I'd be more worried about the guy waving a neon orange flag in front of me, yelling at me that I couldn't park my car in a spot...

I am however very concerned about these guys with the neon flags. I don't know who they are or what they're up to but I don't think I'm gonna like it.

[masterjedi116]

getting upset in a watch forum is a little ridiculous....

[ljb187]

getting upset in a watch forum is a little ridiculous....

I think that's a joke, and if it is it's a pretty good one.

[OrangeSport]

BTW, which thread has upset you?

[NH102.22]

I think you just have to get over it and try not to take it too seriously, or if you're really pissed, maybe try your luck by responding hehe. What's the worst that could happen, anyway? Blocked, banned, deleted?

I totally agree that the written can come across more forcefully than the spoken.

There are plenty of smarta***s who like to act tough on the forum by making incendiary remarks or picking people's words to pieces to no productive end. Trying to help is one thing, but is there any need to ridicule while correcting errors &c? I haven't made many posts, but I've read plenty...