Exclusive Date Ideas

[WCD Custom Shop]

Here is where I want to pull on the experience of the refined gentlemen that I have no doubt as to being on this forum. Imagine, if you will, that you have met a lady that you want to take out and show her a really nice evening. As respectable as it is to go out to dinner and a movie, I'm looking for something that might not be run-of-the-mill; something that might set you apart from every other guy she has ever went out with, etc. What is your idea as to what a first class date looks like and how it proceeds, etc.?

I can't wait to see what kind of responses I might get but please keep this within reason. I would like to have ideas that I can actually use in the future. Please be aware that I don't have the means to spend $1,000 on a dinner or anything like that per-se.

Thank you in advance,
WCD

[borat4presidente]

I'm fortunate to live in Chicago which offers plenty of great ideas but this is the move I've used a few times to impress. Dinner on the 95th floor of the Hancock center ($500-$700) includes a bottle of top shelf wine or hard liquor. Then VIP seating and drinks at one of a few night clubs in the river north neighborhood ie: vision, privet or cuvée. Which will run in the $500 range because of bottle service. My problem is that I'm a perpetual bachelor because I lose interest in relationships too fast, call it add I guess.

[colerobertson]

Having no Idea where you live I cant really give any details. But my idea would be Casa Dominica in Kingston (limestone city), Ontario Canada. Canada's best Italian casual dinning. Very affordable. Other good restaurants are Woodenheads, and of course Le Chien-Noir. All of these are rated above 4 stars and have a really a good atmosphere (I have also seen multiple times, a couple pull up in a red Ferrari with the Rolex to at Casa Dominica). It really depends on your idea of a good night, but personally make it comfortable (and not too exclusive). A simple walk after dinner on the water front at night is something people often overlook. And for more exclusivity, find a way to be on the water in the evening (I have a sailboat) but you can do a rental or even a private cruise in Kingston. An evening sail in Kingston is very impressive. There are live plays in the summer and many public events. One thing a friend of mine did was bring his girl friend into a regatta, at first she didn't like it, but by the second day of a three day event she was having a great experience (very exclusive in my opinion and it shows your interests).

I dont know what else to say, but I recommend Kingston (even for a vacation). We have a condo downtown on the waterfront, so every thing is within walking distance. "You could call us the pro's of the Kingston lifestyle?" What ever you do, don't take it out of a romance movie. Make it a bit casual like we sailors do.

[WCD Custom Shop]

Very good ideas...thank you gents. It sounds like I really need to take into account the exclusive places that are somewhat local to me if I'm going to pursue the fine dining route...that definitely has possibilities. I also like finding something to do on the water. I'm Central Kentucky, I'll do some research and see if there's something to do around Newport. I've been to Newport on the Levi before and it has a nice atmosphere in the evenings.

You've given me some ideas to thank about.

Thanks!

[WCD Custom Shop]

Having no Idea where you live I cant really give any details. But my idea would be Casa Dominica in Kingston (limestone city), Ontario Canada. Canada's best Italian casual dinning. Very affordable. Other good restaurants are Woodenheads, and of course Le Chien-Noir. All of these are rated above 4 stars and have a really a good atmosphere (I have also seen multiple times, a couple pull up in a red Ferrari with the Rolex to at Casa Dominica). It really depends on your idea of a good night, but personally make it comfortable (and not too exclusive). A simple walk after dinner on the water front at night is something people often overlook. And for more exclusivity, find a way to be on the water in the evening (I have a sailboat) but you can do a rental or even a private cruise in Kingston. An evening sail in Kingston is very impressive. There are live plays in the summer and many public events. One thing a friend of mine did was bring his girl friend into a regatta, at first she didn't like it, but by the second day of a three day event she was having a great experience (very exclusive in my opinion and it shows your interests).

I dont know what else to say, but I recommend Kingston (even for a vacation). We have a condo downtown on the waterfront, so every thing is within walking distance. "You could call us the pro's of the Kingston lifestyle?" What ever you do, don't take it out of a romance movie. Make it a bit casual like we sailors do.

This is a beautiful place.

Thanks for posting!

[Packleader]

What's more important than where you go is how you present yourself. If you are confident, open, honest and relaxed, you might be fine buying her a sandwich at Subway.

But, I would recommend that you do a little legwork ahead of time to find a little hole-in-the wall, a well-kept secret, where the food is fantastic and the service is friendly. Take her there to eat and then go for a walk afterwards. And, yes, walking by the water definitely helps.

As for a movie / show / etc. -- that's a bad idea for a first date, because that's two hours that you won't be talking to each other. You'll want to have the opportunity to smile, maintain eye contact and be genuinely interested.

Notice I said be genuinely interested, not act genuinely interested. Once you realize that you're not interested or you really have nothing in common, its time to wind down the date to a friendly goodbye. To continue trying at that point would be unfair to her and unfair to yourself.

I hope this helps!

Best of luck,
Packleader

[bacari]

Not sure if you are referring to a first date or not but either way you, of course, should get to know the young lady as much as possible before venturing out. The most important question then becomes, "Were you paying attention?" If you were then your ideas should come directly from her expressed interests. If she likes music then you can find a dinner venue or after dinner venue that features live music that she likes. Whatever the case, you should structure the date around what you know about her. Even if you are not dead-on, you always get big points for paying attention.

Just imagine if the lady were in charge of planning the date and as a part of the day she suprisingly got tickets to a watch event/show/exhibit. Surely, she would blow you away. She was listening, she cared, and obviously she wants to impress. It definitely would be a winning date for me!

Good luck and I hope you sweep her off her feet. There's nothing like a little happiness.

[Packleader]

Not sure if you are referring to a first date or not but either way you, of course, should get to know the young lady as much as possible before venturing out. The most important question then becomes, "Were you paying attention?" If you were then your ideas should come directly from her expressed interests. If she likes music then you can find a dinner venue or after dinner venue that features live music that she likes. Whatever the case, you should structure the date around what you know about her. Even if you are not dead-on, you always get big points for paying attention.

Just imagine if the lady were in charge of planning the date and as a part of the day she suprisingly got tickets to a watch event/show/exhibit. Surely, she would blow you away. She was listening, she cared, and obviously she wants to impress. It definitely would be a winning date for me!

Good luck and I hope you sweep her off her feet. There's nothing like a little happiness.

That is excellent advice at any stage of the game, whether you are planning a first date or a 50th anniversary cruise.

Cheers,
Packleader

[Baron Of Cats]

My answer to this is a two-sided coin.

On the heads side, THIS:

Not sure if you are referring to a first date or not but either way you, of course, should get to know the young lady as much as possible before venturing out. The most important question then becomes, "Were you paying attention?"

But on the tails side, "something that might set you apart from every other guy she has ever went out with"...well, what sets YOU apart from every other guy? What makes you you?

If you don't know the answer to that question, no amount of paying attention to her likes and wishes will save you. Dating is not about "getting the girl", it's about two people getting each other.

Any guy can do the routine of discovering her true desires and molding himself to them, but in the end that is only attractive for so long. Eventually she will see that you've created a hollow man, a mirage, a mere character strutting on the stage. Like Christian, the handsome foil for Cyrano de Bergerac who wooed Roxane by proxy, an empty vessel standing in for someone else.

What will set you apart from every other guy is both knowing what she likes AND knowing what you like. And hopefully, some of these are the same thing....you are after compatibility after all, n'est-ce pas?

Bacari's advice, while excellent, can be taken to too far an extreme. Few men listen well to women, but few men also have the courage to truly be themselves with a woman.

Recently, I advised a friend who was busily planning an entire date around what the woman he desired likes, "Do all of that, but also take her to see Haywire". Why? Because he is an adept practitioner and ardent fan of mixed martial arts, and because Gina Caruso is pretty much his ideal of a woman.

Yes, there's the risk that she won't like the movie. But if she doesn't like that movie, she's probably not going to like him either. The greater risk is being some lowest-common-denominator chameleon who is so adept at molding to the desires of women that he never makes time to find what he himself truly wants.

You pay attention to her, so that you can learn how to truly turn her on. That is the essence of seduction.

You are radiantly and loudly yourself, so that you can be sure of finding what truly turns you on. That is the essence of living.

[ammyrodrics]

Wow these are amazing tips..Thanks a lot for sharing!